HOW TO STOP WORRYING AND START LIVING

Assalamualaikum w.b.t.
Harapnya semua pembaca di dalam keadaan sihat dan tiada kerisauan didalam diri. Alhamdulillah kerisauan yang minggu lalu yang begitu banyak mencengkam diri telah berakhir dengan test 2 finance tadi, Alhamdulillah, syukur pada Allah. Assignment juga sudah berakhir, masa untuk mulakan perang final examination starting 30hb ni.  Ya Allah. Permudahkanlah segalanya.

Seperti yang saya janjikan saya ingin berkongsi sebuah lagi buku karangan DALE CARNEGIE, iaitu Buku. "HOW TO STOP WORRYING AND START LIVING". Semoga kita semua mendapat manfaat yang sama.

PART 1: FUNDAMENTAL FACTS YOU SHOULD KNOW ABOUT WORRY
Rule 1: If you want to avoid worry, do what Sir William Osler did, Live in 'day-tight compartments' Don't stew about the future. Just live each day until bedtime.
Rule 2: The next time trouble- with a Capital T-backs you up in a corner, try the magic formular of wills H. Carrier:

• Ask yourself, "What is the worst that can possibly happen If I can't solve my problem?"
• Prepare yourself mentally to accept the worst-if necessary.
• Then calmly try to improve upon the worst-which you have already mentally agreed to accept.

Rule 3: Remind yourself of the exorbitant price you can pay for worry in terms of your health. "Those who do not know how to fight worry die young"

PART 2: BASIC TECHNIQUES IN ANALYZING WORRY

Rule1: Get the facts. Remember that Deen Hawkes of Columbia University said that, 'Half the worry in theb world is caused by people trying to make decisions before they have sufficient knowledge on which to base a decision.'

Rule2: After carefully weighing all the facts, come to a decision.

Rule3: Once a decision is carefully reached, act! Get busy carrying out your decision-and dismiss all anxiety about the outcome.

Rule4: When you, or any of your associates, are tempted to worry about a problem, write out and answer the following questions:

• What is the problem?
• What is the cause of the problem?
• What are all possible solutions?
• What is the best solutions?

PART 3: HOW TO BREAK THE WORRY HABIT BEFORE IT BREAKS YOU

Rule1: Crowd worry out of your mind by keeping busy. Plenty of action is one of the best therapies ever devised for curing 'wibber gibbers'.

Rule 2: Don't fuss about trifles. Don't permit little things- the mere termites of life-to ruin your happiness.

Rule 3: Use the law of average to outlaw your worries. Ask yourself: 'What are the odds against this thing's happening at all?'

Rule 4: Cooperate with the inevitable. If you know a circumstance is beyond your power to change or revise, say to yourself: 'It is so; it cannot be otherwise.'

Rule 5: Put a 'stop-loss' order on your worries. Decide just how much anxiety a thing may be worth-and refuse to give it any more.

Rule 6: Let the past bury its dead. Don't saw sawdust.

PART 4: SEVEN WAYS TO CULTIVATE A MENTAL ATTITUDE THAT WILL BRING YOU PEACE AND HAPPINESS.
Rule 1:  Let's fill our minds with thought of peace, courage, health and hope, for 'our life is what or thoughts make for'.
Rule 2: Let's never try to get even with our enemies, because if we do we will hurt ourselves far more than we hurt them. Let's do as General Eisenhower does: "Let's never waste a minute thinks about people we don't like".
Rule 3:
 A) Instead of worrying about ingratitude let's expect it. Let's remember that Allah, its better for us and only thanks Him. Why should we expect more gratitude than Allah give us. It is natural for people to forget to be grateful, so if we go around expecting gratitude, we are headed straight for a lot of heartaches.
B) Let's remember that the only way to find  happiness is not to expect gratitude but give for the joy of giving.
C) Let's remember gratitude is a 'cultivated trait; so if we want our children to be grateful, we must train them to be grateful.
Rule 4: Count your blessing- not your troubles!
Rule 5: Let's not imitate others. Let's find ourselves and be ourselves, for 'envy is ignorance' and 'imitation is suicide'.
Rule 6: When fate hands us a lemon, let's try to make a lemonade.
Rule 7: Let's forget our own unhappiness-by trying to create a little happiness for others. 'When you are good to others, you are best to yourself'.

PART 5: THE PERFECT WAY TO CONQUER WORRY

PRAYER!---> Make a good relationship with Allah-strengthen it!

• Its help us to put into words exactly what is troubling us. We ask help for a problem-even for Allah, we must put it into words.
• It gives us a sense of sharing our burdens, of not being alone. Sometimes, we can't tell someone our troubles when we can't tell anyone else-we can always tell Allah.
• Prayer puts into force an active principle of doing. It's a first step toward action.

World Famous Scientist, Dr. Alexis Carrel, said: 

"Prayer is the most powerful form of energy one can generate."

PART 6: HOW TO KEEP FROM WORRYING ABOUT CRITICISM

Rule 1: Remember that "unjust criticism is often a disguised compliment. It often means that you have aroused jealousy and envy". Remember that no one ever kicks a dead dog.

Rule 2: Do the very best you can and then put up your old umbrella and keep the rain of criticism for running down the back of neck.

Rule 3: Let's keep a record of the fool things we have done and criticize ourselves. Since we can't hope to be perfect, let's do what E.H. Little said : Let's ask for unbiased, helpful, constructive criticism.

PART 7: SIX WAYS TO PREVENT FATIGUE AND WORRY AND KEEP YOUR ENERGY AND SPIRIT HIGH.

Rule 1: Rest before you get tired.

Rule 2: Learn to relax at  your work.

Rule 3: Learn to relax at home.

Rule 4: Apply these for good working habits.

• Clear your desk of all papers except those relating to the immediate problem at hand.
• Do things the order of their importance. 
• When you face a problem, solve it then and there if you have the facts necessary to make a decision.
• Learn to organize, deputize and supervise.

Rule 5: To prevent worry and fatigue, put enthusiasm into your work.

Rule 6: Remember, no one was ever killed by lack of sleep. It is worrying about insomnia that does the damage-not the insomnia. 

PART 8: "HOW I CONQUERED WORRY" 

31 True Stories 

Story 1: Major troubles hit me all at once.

• Remember today is tomorrow you worried about yesterday. Ask yourself, How do I know this thing I am worrying about will really come to pass. (by C.I. Blackwood)

Story 2: I can turn myself into a shouting optimist within an hour by Roger W.Babson, Famous Economist.

• Here is a method that deserve a whole chapter. Read history! Try to get the viewpoint of ten thosand years- and see how trivial your troubles are, in terms of eternity!

Story 3: I lived in the Garden of Allah by R.V.C Bodley, author of wind in the Sahara, The Messenger.

• When the fierce, burning wind blow over - and we can't prevent them let us too, accept the inevitable
• (Part 3: and then get busy and pick up the pieces!)

Story 4: Five method I have used to banish worry by Prof. William Lyon Phelps.

• Live with gusto and enthusiasm. ' I live everyday as if it were the first day I had ever seen and the last I were going to see.'
• Read and interesting book.
• Play games ' when I was terrible depressed, I forced myself to become physically active almost every hour of the day.'
• Try to see my troubles in their proper perspectives.
• J.C.Pemney learned to overcome worry almost instantaneousness because he discovered the one perfect cure-God.

Story 5: I was the worrying wreck from Virginia Tech by Jim Birdsali.

By Prof Baid give his 3 rules to break worry habit.

• Find out precisely what is the problem you are worry about.
• Find out the cause of the problem.
• Do something constructive at once about solving the problem.

Story 6: By Percy H.Whiting, author of the five great rules of selling 

The point of this is: Don't take yourself too seriously. Try just laughing at some of your sillier worries and see if you can't laugh them out of existence.

And there are more stories and explanation that you can gain more knowledge if you buy or read this book. Then, what are you waiting for? Just grab it!! Try this book okay? ^_____^

MOOD : HAPPY, JUST FOCUS FOR MY FINAL EXAMINATION,

 ~All worries gone just like that~

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How To Win Friends and Influence People

Assalamualaikum. Kali ni saya nak kongsikan pasal satu buku, kat atas  ini, bagi saya ianya sangat menarik dan isinya mantap dan gaya bahasanya mudah difahami. Buku ini bertajuk How to Win Friends and Influence People, tulisan Dale Carnegie.


        Pasti ramai yang sudah membacanya, kan? Cuma saya saja yang ketinggalan hehehe.Ya la, buku ini kan popular dan sekarang ni dah ada terjemahannya kalau saya tak tersilap. Penah jumpa jugak kat MPH tapi tak teringin pun nak beli tapi tadi, lepas saya solat zohor, masih awal lagi, so kaki saya melangkah ke "Resourse Centre", perpustakaan kecil di Kuliyyah saya. Hmm nak buat apa ya? Saya pun membelik-belik buka kat  rak tepi meja saya dan terjumpalah buku ni. Saya tak baca sangat pun tapi just tengok isi-isi penting dan cuba baca sikit-sikit penerangannya. Tapi buku ni memang mudah faham dan Ia adalah salah satu buku motivasi.

Apa ya ada dalm buku ni? Jom kita bedah~


PART 1: TECHNIQUE IN HANDLING PEOPLE


Principle 1: Don't Criticize, condemn or complain.
Principle 2: Give honest and sincere appreciation.
Principle 3: Arouse in the other person an eager want.


PART 2: 6 WAYS TO MAKE PEOPLE LIKE YOU


Principle 1: Became genuinely interested in other people.
Principle 2: Simple way to make first impression---> SMILE
Principle 3: Remember that person's name is to that person the sweetest and the most important sound in any language.
Principle 4: Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
Principle 5: How to interest people---> Talk in terms of the other's interest.
Principle 6: How to make people like you instantly--> make the other person feel important and do it sincerely.


PART 3: HOW TO WIN PEOPLE TO YOUR WAY OF THINKING.


Principle 1: The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it

(HOW TO KEEP A DISAGREEMENT FROM BECOMING AN ARGUMENT)

From: Article Bits and Piece

• Welcome the disagreement means we must be tolerance.
• Distrust your first instinctive impression--> be careful, keep calm and watch out for your first. reaction.
•  Control your temper
• Listen first.
• Look or find the areas of agreement.
• Be honest.
• Promise to think over your opponent's ideas in study them carefully.
• Thank your opponent sincerely for their interest.
• Postpone action to give both side time to thinks through the problem.   

Principle 2: Show respect for the other's opinions. Never say, " You're wrong!."

Principle 3: If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.

Principle 4: Begin in a friendly way.

Principle 5: Get the other person, saying 'Yes, Yes' immediately.

Principle 6: Let the other person do a great deal of the talking.

Principle 7: Let the other person feel that the idea is his or her.

Principle 8: Try honestly  to see things from the other person's point of view.

Principle 9: Be sympathetic with the other person's ideas and desires.

Principle 10: Appeal to the nobler motives.

Principle 11: Dramatize your ideas.

Principle 12: Throw down a challenge.

PART 4: BE A LEADER 

(HOW TO CHANGE PEOPLE WITHOUT GIVING OFFENCE OR AROUSING RESENTMENT)

A leader's job often includes changing your people's attitudes and behavior.

Some suggestions to accomplish this:

Principle 1: Begin with praise and honest appreciations.

Principle 2: Call attention to people's mistake indirectly.

Principle 3: Talk about your own mistake before criticizing the other person.

Principle 4: Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.

Principle 5: Let the other person save face.

Principle 6: Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement. Be 'hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise'.

Principle 7: Give the other person a fine reputation to live up too.

Principle 8: Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct.

Principle 9: Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest.

You want to know more??

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It is a great book, Grab it and try it~

COMING SOON.....InsyaAllah

 BOOK TITLE: HOW TO STOP WORRYING AND START LIVING

~Let's  motivate ourself ~

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Stress ka?

Sahabatku,

Aku tahu kau menderita,

Aku mengerti kau sengsara,

Aku fahami kau merana

Namun apa yang aku mampu

Bila kau kata kau menderita,

Aku berdoa agar kau terus tabah

Bila kau kata kau sengsara,

Aku berdoa moga kau terus gagah

Bila kau kata kau merana

Aku berdoa harap kau tidak terus mengalah

Doaku tidak akan pernah putus agar,

moga dan harap keu terus diberikan kesempatan demi kesempatan

Puisi dari Dari Sufi

Karangan: Siti MunaZakiah

Kenapa saya post puisi ni sebab saya sedang merasai yang sahabat-sahabat saya sedang bertungkus lumus menyiapkan assignment masing-masing dan sedang menghitung detik final exam yang bakal kunjung tiba di penghujung bulan ini. Mungkin ada yang mengalami stress disebabkan kekusutan memikirkan segala macam hal dan keadaan mereke.

Bersabarlah dan cubalah pujuk diri masing-masing dengan ayat ini:

"...Allah tidak akan membebani seseorang melainkan sesuai dengan kesanggupannya."

(Surah Al-Baqarah:286)

Cuba buat satu persatu dengan tenang dan jangan campur adukkan. Listkan dahulu mengikut keutamaan. InsyaAllah sama-sama kita cuba praktikkan. Berkenaan Final Exam pula, sekarang ni dah boleh kita plankan jadual study mengikut tarikh exam, subjek membaca dan mengira. Cuba buat jadual mengikut keupayaan masing-masing. We must start from now. InsyaAllah semoga Allah Talla memberikan kemudahan buat kita semua.

SAY NO TO STRESS!!!

~Planning is important BUT Praying is the MOST important~

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BERFIKIRAN POSITIF

Assalamualaikum sahabat-sahabatku sekalian. Dalam kesibukan diri mengulangkaji ni terasa nak menulis pula. Walaupun tak berapa nak pandai mana menulis ni,tapi atas RASA nak menulis tu ada, so izinkan saya menulis ya. Harap dapat menberi manfaat untuk kita semua, InsyaAllah

Dalam meneruskan kehidupan seharian, sedar tak sedar, kadang-kadang ada rasa putus asa, lemah semangat, tidak yakin dengan diri, semua keadaanlah yang menyebabkan diri lesu dan tak bermaya. Bertambah malas pun ada, rasa nak tidur ja. Semua ini adalah mingkin disebabkan kita selalu berfikiran negatif, selalu berkata TIDAK, dan JANGAN. Contohnya, “Tidak akan Berjaya jika aku malas”, seharusnya katakana la “ Ya aku akan Berjaya jika aku rajin”. Nampak dak berbezaan kedua-dua ayat diatas? Nampakkan? Ayat kedua tampak lebih bersemangat dan mendorong kita terus melakukan kerja, seperti belajar. Memang kita tak sedar, tetapi selalunya perkataan atau percakapan kitalah yang mendorong kita melakukan sesuatu. Kita cakap lain tapi lain yang kita buat. Ya dak? Saya pun selalu macam tu. =)

“Kenapalah dapat result teruk sangat ni?” ni pon salah satu masalah iaitu kita tak bersyukur dengan apa yang kita dapat, seharusnya kita letakkan dalam minda selalu, Alhamdulillah ini setimpal dengan usaha yang aku lakukan, lain kali aku nak improve lagi!! Bersemangatkan. Jadi kita pun rasa lebih bersemangat, ya la perkara dah lepas, kita dah buat, dah terjadi, NASI DAH JADI BUBUR, TAK MUNGKIN JADI BERAS SEMULA DAH. Jadi apa yang kita harapkan kita akan berusaha lagi dan lagi untuk yang akan yang datang. Selain bersyukur, kita juga akan bersemangat, berkeyakinan dan berpandangan jauh kehadapan.

Bila terima musibah pula. Selalu sahaja tak dak mood,emo tak tentu pasal, stress, rasa nak tidur ja seharian. Tapi jika sebaliknya jika kita amalkan berfikiran positif, letakkan dalam minda dan hati kita, Yakin dan pasti ada hikmah disebalik semua yang berlaku itu. Kita akan mudah rasa tenang dan berpuas hati. Dan kita juga akan cuba sedaya upaya mencari solusi atas kelemahan diatas permasalahan yang berlaku itu. Alangkah baiknya setiap tika dan saatnya kita berfikiran positif bukan? Dan semestinya keceriaan dan ketenangan akan terpancar diwajah kita walaupun kadang-kadang hanya diri yang lebih tahu. Salah satu cara untuk berfikiran positif juga kita perlu selalu bermuhasabah diri. InsyaAllah kita akan temui jalan yang terbaik. InsyaAllah. (^____^)

“Janganlah kamu bersikap lemah, dan janganlah kamu bersedih hati, padahal kamulah orang yang paling tinggi (darjatnya), jika kamu orang yang beriman.”

(Ali-Imran 139)

Itulah serba sedikit mengenai berfikiran positif, just nak tekankan

“SESUATU YANG BERLAKU ITU PASTI ADA HIKMAHNYA”

“CARI SOLUSI SETIAP MUSIBAH, MOMENTUM DIRI MENCARI ILAHI

KETENANGAN DIRAIH PENGUAT JASADI

ITU KUASA POSITIF DIRI”

~Special My Sweet sis, Kak Teh~

Jom bermujahadah!!!

“To all student of IIUM, Espeacially to all my friends, All The Best in Final Examination, Sama-sama kita buat yang terbaik. Gunakan masa yang ada dengan sebaiknya, usaha dan terus usaha tanpa jemu, disamping dekatkan diri kepadaNya setiap waktu, Dan mohonlah restu kedua ibubapa agar kita sentiasa tenang. Selebihnya serahkan segala ketentuan kepada yang Maha Esa, ALLAH TUHAN KITA”

::Semoga Berjaya di dunia dan di akhirat, Amin ya Rabbal ‘Alamin::

~Tiada yang lebih bernilai, dari masa kita~

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